Thursday, March 18, 2010


Do you know who your true friends are?
No, I mean your TRUE friends.

The person who's there for you when you're down.
The person who celebrates life victories with you and isn't jealous of your success.
The person who calls you when they "get a feeling" you needed to talk.
The person who spontaneously gives you a hug without a reason.
The person who sets their priorities aside for yours when you ask ... and even when you don't ask.
The person who says what they mean and means what they say.
The person who lets you talk without judging you.
The person who tells you when those jeans just aren't flattering on you.
The person who lends or gives you something of theirs when you're in need.
The person you can call any time of the day ... or night.
The person who will cheerfully pick you up at the airport at midnight.
The person who brings you Girl Scout cookies after a tough show.
The person who knows when to speak and when to just listen.
The person who supports every decision you make, regardless of whether they agree with you or not.
The person who ignores people who are mean to you.

Is there someone in your life who fits all of these statements?

True friends are incredibly difficult to find. And when we find them, we need to hang onto them.

To let them know how much we value their presence in our lives.
To tell them how thankful and blessed we are to be friends with them.
To return their actions in full by being the friend to them that they are to us.

I received a difficult lesson in friendship and loyalty this week. A rude awakening that resulted in extreme disappointment and a feeling of betrayal. I guess I had a feeling I wasn't that important to this person, but I didn't realize I would be used as a pawn in this person's pursuit of personal gain. And I certainly didn't expect Jerry's generosity and friendship to this person to be completely disregarded as if he meant nothing at all.

So how do we go about dealing with betrayal and a loss of "friendship"? Do we cut ourselves off from everyone because we don't want to get hurt again? Because we don't want to open ourselves up to get hurt? I don't think that's the right answer. I think that life needs to be LIVED. And along with living life, is both happiness and pain. We need both - there's a balance of all things in nature. And difficult situations only make us stronger. We heal. We move on. We use our new knowledge to make different decisions that guide us in the direction we're meant to follow.

So I encourage you all to think about those who are important to you. Those who are your true friends. And to thank those people for being in your life.

It's a small world ... and the bodybuilding community is even smaller. We all need to support each other as best we can, and to remember that what goes around comes around. Karma's a bitch, ain't it!

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