Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Tell Me Lies

Honesty is such a basic concept, yet it can be so difficult at times. We all want to portray ourselves in the best light possible, and sometimes that means hiding things or lying about things. I tried lying once when I was younger, and I just got into more trouble than if I would've told the truth. Since then, all attempts I've made at lying have failed miserably. So it seems that I suck at lying. Apparently, I'm quite transparent.

But I don't think that's a bad thing. In fact, I think it's actually a very positive thing. I approach life with an open and honest perspective, and assume others do the same. How very wrong I am sometimes.

One of the biggest and hardest lessons I've learned in the past year is that people lie. A lot. And sometimes for no good reason. I really don't understand the compulsion, but I'm learning to deal with it.

For example, if I believed everything people wrote on forums or said to me, every guy is always at 12% bodyfat, can bench 405 for reps, and squats 1000 lbs. Every competitor has THE BEST training program, and everyone else's program sucks or is "wrong" in so many ways. No one does cardio anymore and they only diet for 2 weeks before stepping on stage. Cereal is a great pre-contest food, no one cheats on their diet, and everyone is 100% "natural."

Do any of these things sound real or possible to you? I've heard them all ... and actually believed some of them! I'm sure some people actually believe the things they're saying, even if the things aren't actually true (C'mon, we all think our trainer is the best, right?). But there are some people out there who say these things just to annoy, distract, or piss off other people.

My question is ... why do it? Why lie? Who cares what you can bench? Who cares what your bodyfat percentage is? Who cares how long you diet? Who cares if you like your training program?

The only person who should care about any of these things is YOU! No one else!

I find myself constantly comparing myself to others ... reading what they write about their diet and training, and believing they're all telling the truth. But not all the information they're providing is true, and I have no idea what they're NOT saying.

For example, if I read an article about a Figure pro's diet and training program and look at her pictures, I immediately start comparing my program and my body to hers. This is a dangerous thing to do, because I don't know if the info in the article is 100% accurate. I also don't know what's NOT included in the article. Maybe she does additional exercises than what's listed. Maybe she uses "supplements" or other techniques that no one talks about. Maybe the pictures were touched up a lot before they were printed.

The point is, no one divulges all their information about their diet and training programs. Some people even outright lie about theirs. I'm discovering that it's best to just keep doing what I know works for ME, and focus only on my own prep. I need to stop worrying about what others say or don't say, and just bring my own best physique to the stage.

I don't think I'll ever understand why people lie, but I'm accepting the fact that they'll continue to do it. Especially in this industry, where there are so many different methods, approaches, and theories ... and not one right answer that works for everyone.


  1. Oh this reminds me of a podcast that I saw on bodybuilding.com...If someone has been successful in their endeavors, others will look up to them, and inevitably ask questions. They can say anything..."I have such and such for breakfast everyday" and it worked, doesn't matter, they could be telling a bold faced lie...and we (generally speaking) believe them. Anyways, the point of the podcast was to do our own research...so that's what I do.

    I also don't know why people lie, maybe they think it's funny that we're gullible enough to believe them, so I try to take what they say with a little grain of salt. I do my own research, ask questions to those that I respect and then I do what is working for me.

    And by the way...another great blog.

  2. Great post! I hate liars. My favorite quote is "the naked truth is better than a well dressed lie".


  3. SO TRUE!
    I have pondered this before too. Good post Kari