Thursday, July 29, 2010

Arrogance or Ignorance?

How many times have you heard people ask for help or an answer to a question, receive an answer or advice, and then proceed to completely disregard the information and do the opposite of what was advised?

I see this again and again online and in person.

Mr. Wanna-Be-Huge: Yo bros! I wanna get huge! What's the best way to do that?
Pro Bodybuilder: Hard work - train hard and eat a lot of clean foods.
Mr. Wanna-Be-Huge: Whatever, bro. You're lying to me cuz you don't want me to be better than you. You're not telling me about the magic, secret pill all you pros take to get huge. *proceeds to train like a pansy, eat McDonalds every day, and load up on every supplement imaginable ... and then wonders why he can't make any progress.

Miss Wanna-Get-Lean: Hey girl! How do I drop some of this weight to get ready for summer?
Trainer: Get off the cardio deck, hit the weights hard, and follow a nutrition program.
Miss Wanna-Get-Lean: Weights?! Only guys do that! I don't wanna look like a guy! *proceeds to hop back on the treadmill for another 2 hours and eat only salads ... and then wonders why she still has cellulite on her butt.

Do either of these conversations sound familiar? Why do we ask for help or guidance, only to disregard it and continue doing what hasn't been working?

If your nutritionist gives you a diet plan, do you follow it precisely? Or do you substitute foods, lick the spoon when you bake cookies for your kids, and skip meals?

When your trainer tells you to do 45 min of fasted cardio every morning, do you do those 45 min every day? Or do you do 30 min in the morning cuz you're running late and either skip the last 15 or do it at the end of the day? Or do you meander into the gym in the afternoon because you didn't feel like getting up early today?

When your coach tells you to eat only ONE treat meal a week, do you limit yourself to that one meal? Or do you snack the whole day and stretch the "meal" out for hours?

Why do we hire people to help us out and then disrespect them by not following their plans for us? There's no secret to changing your body. It's simple: consistency. I've written about this before here and here. If your body isn't making the changes you want to see, examine your habits and your mindset. Are you doing everything your trainer or coach is suggesting? Are you following the protocol exactly?

We are the only ones responsible for how our bodies look and feel. So take charge, take responsibility, and if you hire someone to help you achieve your goals, listen to them!


  1. Direct and to the point! :)

  2. I am not a bodybuilder but I have been a member of for 5 years. I read the articles and browse the forums once in a while and you are so right. So many ppl also assume that what worked for one will work for them too. Not the case

  3. Hey girl, i've just stumbled across your blog and wanted to say HI, cos i'm LOVING IT! Chelle =)

  4. I, unfortunately am guilty of not following the program to the T :( But there is one thing i dont do...i dont blame the trainer...i know its all me :) Yes, im guilty of not getting up early enough to do my morning cardio, so its cut short. Yes, i substitute foods also. And i know its only hurting me. I suck! LOL!

  5. @Chelle - Thanks for reading! :)

    @Angela - You don't suck, girl! Remember to believe in yourself and believe that you CAN do it! :)

  6. Forgot to mention ... I'm totally guilty of doing some of the things I mentioned above! :P

  7. Right on! I've been guilty of shortening a workout and stretching a cheat meal, but what you said is SO true. Ignorance is bliss for some!!