Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Zero Patience

It happens every year. People joke about it and laugh it off, but it's true. People get crabby during contest prep. I've officially entered the Annoyed-at-Everything-Zero-Patience phase.

I'm an optimistic, happy person by nature. I was a cheerleader in high school AND college, for pete's sake! But during a short time period when I'm getting ready for a show, I find myself easily annoyed, frustrated, and peeved. My (already low) patience level dips to near non-existent, and I have to consciously stop myself from immediately responding to comments and online posts until I take a deep breath and get my first impulse responses under control.

I like helping people, sharing knowledge, and watching people succeed. I get annoyed when I offer suggestions and helpful information that is either ignored or disregarded. If you don't want help, don't ask for it.

I belong to several online forums and groups. While some of the interactions are just mildly annoying to me, I got offended the other day when someone questioned my qualifications for writing health and fitness articles. No, I don't have any formal education; I've learned everything on my own through trial and error, listening to experts, and hours upon hours of research. I have nothing against education; in fact, I'm a huge proponent of college degrees. But I don't think they're a necessity in all situations. I've found that the most knowledgeable people are the ones who have put in the time to research and test theories, regardless of whether they're in a formal classroom setting, at their job, or do it in their spare time.

Before I responded to the question, I assessed my feelings.

  • Was I over-reacting?
  • Just because I read the question as offensive, was she really trying to offend me?
  • Was she simply curious about my background? (That information can be found after a 2 minute search on Facebook and my blog, btw.)
  • Was she implying that her formal education is superior to my personal experience?
  • Was she implying that I'm not qualified to write health and fitness articles?
  • Was I letting my crabby mood influence my perception of the question?
Since I don't know the girl personally, I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I responded in a polite manner and encouraged her to let me know if she had any other topic suggestions for me to write about. I'm a professional writer, so with enough time to do research, I can write about most any topic that's not too complex.

I realize that by writing in public forms, I'm opening myself up to criticism. I don't expect everyone to agree with me all the time; in fact, I appreciate it when people offer additional information or alternative ways of thinking. It's important to always be learning and open to new ideas and approaches.

Just because I choose to compete doesn't mean I need to make everyone around me miserable. I'm conscious of my attitude and my hair trigger temper, and I'm trying to just let things roll off my shoulders instead of focusing on the negative or on the things other people say or do. I need to keep my eye on the prize and stay focused on my goal. I'm pasting a smile on my face right now!

Do you get crabby, easily annoyed, or impatient during prep? How do you handle it? What are your thoughts on qualifications for writing articles?

6 comments:

  1. Love this post! Ahhh but I enjoy all of your posts! Like you I am an eternal optimist, cup 1/2 full kinda gal. That has been a challenge this past week! Thanks for sharing.

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  2. Hahaha, I most definitely get crabby, annoyed AND impatient during prep. :) I don't handle it well. Haha! I think this will be a future project for prep.
    As far as qualifications go, I think anyone can write an article. I think that is the beauty of free speech. You don't have to be perfect or have a collegiate background to have an opinion or to offer advice on something you know about from personal experience. But that's just my two-cents. :) I love your articles, Kari! I look forward to them, in fact. So you had better keep writing them!

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  3. i get crabby during peak week-my husband hides the peanut butter AND the kids,lol!!

    and yes,i do agree that personal, real life experience and ones own research speaks volumes in comparison to collegiate classroom experiences....

    i too enjoy your articles and feel like you have the knowledge and experience to back it up!!!!

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  4. I SO can relate to this... especially today. Everything has annoyed me today and to make things worse I got my "friend" today on top of being "hangry" and just overly irritable. I like what you said though, "Just because I choose to compete doesn't mean I need to make everyone around me miserable. I'm conscious of my attitude and my hair trigger temper, and I'm trying to just let things roll off my shoulders instead of focusing on the negative or on the things other people say or do. I need to keep my eye on the prize and stay focused on my goal." I'm on my first contest prep ever and am trying to get a hold of my emotions as best I can. Thank you for posting this.

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  5. YES! Hanger and tiredness gets the best of me, even when I am NOT dieting. I get annoyed with people that try to put others down to make themselves look good. I am proud of you for taking time to answer kindly and be helpful, just as you always are. Deep breaths ALWAYS help; at least for me.

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  6. I appreciate any advice you have to offer Kari and I always enjoy your articles. Please keep writing:)

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