I realize when I post things on social networking sites and here on my blog that I'm opening myself up to comments and criticism. By making parts of my life private, I'm vulnerable to the opinions of friends and strangers. I should have a thick skin, but the truth is, I just don't. Things people write in response to my posts sometimes hurt me. But on the other hand, some responses lift me up and remind me why I live parts of my life publicly.
I've made some wonderful, caring friends online - most of whom I've never even met in person. I'm thankful for the connections I've made and the enrichment virtual friends have brought to my life.
It's the interactions from thoughtless, rude, and just plain MEAN people that I want to highlight here, though.
As some of you may know, I have many videos posted on my Youtube channel. Some are vlogs that I've posted on my blog, some are training videos, and some are silly videos of J and me. All of my videos are public and anyone is allowed to comment. Usually I'm excited when I receive comments on the videos; however, lately, my heart drops when I receive a comment notification email. Because for some reason, I've received several negative, rude, and hurtful comments. I've removed most of them, but left some of them in the interest of our 1st amendment right to free speech.
Since the comments are/were public, I figured it wouldn't hurt to call these people out on their rudeness.
TheAustralianMade has made a comment on Kari Keenan - Smith Machine Leg Press:
TheAustralianMade decided that he knows more about how to properly perform the Smith Machine Leg Press than I do. The point of this video was to show a different method and angle of leg press. My intention was not to do a full range of motion, as my feet were slipping on the bar.
AwestaKhalid has made a comment on Kari Keenan - Dumbbell Clean and Press:
AwestaKhalid decided to critique my dumbbell clean and press exercise. This video was made when I was about two weeks out from the Arnold. I was depleted, had little strength, and still had some fat to burn. So J decided to add this exercise to my workout for some variety and to add a bit more movement in an exercise for fat burning purposes.
bettertroll has made a comment on Kari Keenan - Lateral Raises:
This was one of the more hurtful comments simply because I'm a bit sensitive about the fact that I'm small chested. Even off-season, I'm not all that big, so when I diet down during prep, there's really not much left. I've thought seriously about getting implants, but have decided that it's cheaper and easier to get a similar look with some magical VS bras (srsly, check them out - they're amazing!). The problem is, I don't wear those bras while training, so the sports bras I wear mash down what little is there to begin with. Also, this video was also filmed when I was two weeks out from the Arnold, and was very lean.
The other reason this comment upsets me is because Bettertroll (srsly - what kind of name is that anyway?!) assumes that I'm not natural. Maybe I should take that as a compliment because it means I can achieve an unnatural look without pumping illegal and dangerous substances through my body?? Bettertroll, sorry to tell you that you just lost that round of Jeopardy. Last time I checked, I'm still all female, baby.
ADZ01982 has made a comment on Kari Keenan - Cable Preacher Curls:
This one actually made me laugh. Sorry, ADZ01982 that you spent three hours on youtube watching educational and highly informational videos and then somehow ended up on my preacher curls video. Hope you were at least entertained.
SexualStrat has made a comment on Kari Keenan - Cable Preacher Curls:I saved the "best" for last. From watching me train biceps two weeks before a show, SexualStrat has deduced that I am a steroid-popping, lying bitch who thinks I'm special. I'm not sure how he managed to make that assumption from a short video of bicep curls. First of all, I'll reiterate yet AGAIN that I'm natural. What others choose to take and do is their concern, not mine, and I don't judge. Again, maybe I should consider it a complement that he thinks I look unnatural? He's completely incorrect in every single one of his assumptions except that fact that I blocked his ass faster than you can say "What an asshole!"
And in case anyone is wondering, "babytatten" (which is my screen name most everywhere) actually means "baby kitten" because I love baby kittens. Yep, it means nothing more than that. I don't call myself "baby" or "lil" or "girly"; my username simply makes me smile because I think of baby kittens.
While I appreciate the fact that people spend some time reading and watching the things I post online, I wonder why someone would take the extra time to be negative and mean. What is the point? Do these people have such an inferiority complex that they feel the need to put others down in order to make themselves feel better? If so, the Christian in me pities them. At the same time, the Minnesota-nice in me wonders why they think it's ok to be mean.
It's ok to provide constructive criticism or to ask questions. It's not ok to be mean and disrespectful. It all goes back to the Golden Rule (which we all should've learned in kindergarten or before):
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
For those of you who have blogs or post videos, do you ever receive negative comments? If so, how do you handle them?